Tuesday, February 16, 2010

oh the drama!

i have to say, i'm pretty happy i'm not a tween anymore. monkey is having trouble with her bestie, beatrice. it seems there was a misunderstanding. poor monkey is flumoxed. she has apologized for her end. she told beatrice she would like one in return for the hurt she caused monkey. unfortunately beatrice doesn't seem to think she needs to offer one. monkey says she's always been the one to have to apologize when they fight. my advice was for monkey to let beatrice know, again, that she is truely sorry for any hurt she's caused but that she would like an apology and that she still wants to be friends. i'm sorry to say that i think this might be the end of them as besties. monkey has put up with a lot from beatrice lately. this might be it if beatrice can't unbend. i feel bad for my monkey. she's a sweet, caring, sensitive girl. i hate to see her in pain because of friends.

*update: i have changed monkey's bff's name to respect her privacy.


Anonymous said...

Friendships are a hard thing. The most important thing you can teach her in this case is to stand up for herself and ask for the respect she deserves as a friend. If the friend isn't forthcoming with the reciprocal apology and respect, then she really wasn't much of a friend in the first place. Hard lesson to learn, but I'd rather my daughter learn her worth now than later.

zeghsy said...

that's basically what i told her. apparently this is a hard age for them and the world of friendship gets pretty cutthroat right now.

Jen on the Edge said...

Pre-teen and teenage girls can be so mean.

I agree with Fear, teaching Monkey to stand up for herself and ask for the respect she deserves is so important.

zeghsy said...

I'm glad I'm not in high school anymore. This is becoming a situation of she said, she said.